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Writer's pictureSanskruti Patel

Graceful Suffering: The Dangerous Allure of Quiet Strength in Mental Health

It’s funny how sometimes the most unexpected sources can trigger a cascade of thoughts. Recently, I found myself in one such moment while scrolling through social media. There it was—a video of Ranbir Kapoor, an actor whose roles have often touched on the complexities of human emotion, sharing his thoughts on therapy and mental health. As I listened to him discuss his struggles to connect with a therapist and his view that therapy can manipulate one's life, I couldn't help but feel a mix of concern and sadness.


Here is a man whose every word and action is followed by millions, speaking in a way that might unintentionally reinforce the very stigma many of us work so hard to dismantle. Ranbir’s reflections seemed to mirror a common defence mechanism—a way to protect oneself from the discomfort of introspection by dismissing the process entirely. It’s like watching a movie where the hero chooses to walk away instead of confronting his demons, labelling the journey as unnecessary drama.


This defence mechanism is something most therapists see frequently in their clients. It manifests as an initial resistance to therapy, a reluctance to delve into the deeper, often painful aspects of their psyche. It's a natural response, one that stems from a place of fear and self-preservation. Yet, this very resistance can hinder personal growth and keep individuals trapped in cycles of distress alongside building belief systems.


What particularly struck me was Ranbir's suggestion that people should handle their problems quietly and gracefully. This notion, though perhaps well-intentioned, can be incredibly damaging. It echoes a pervasive societal belief that mental health struggles are a sign of weakness, something to be dealt with in isolation and silence. As someone who has dedicated their life to helping others with mental health issues, I know firsthand the damage this mindset can inflict.


Mental health challenges are not a personal failing; they are a part of the human experience. Encouraging people to suffer in silence only perpetuates the stigma and prevents them from seeking the help they need. It breaks my heart to think of all the individuals who might be discouraged from reaching out for support because they feel they should handle their struggles alone, quietly enduring their pain.


Reflecting on these statements, I can't help but think about other public figures who have been open about their mental health struggles. Deepika Padukone, Prince Harry, Imran Khan, and many others have shared their journeys in a way that brings hope and normalizes these important conversations. Their honesty has helped countless people feel less alone and more willing to seek support. In contrast, Ranbir's comments, while personal, might unintentionally reinforce negative stereotypes and deter people from getting the help they need.


It's also worth noting how his remarks tap into traditional gender roles. The idea that men should handle their problems quietly and gracefully perpetuates the damaging stereotype that men shouldn't show vulnerability. This "man-up" mentality can be incredibly harmful, especially when it's endorsed by someone with such a broad influence. It's a subtle reminder that men are often expected to be stoic and self-reliant, which can be discouraging.


When celebrities speak about mental health, their words carry weight. Ranbir's perspective, though valid for him, needs to be taken with a pinch of salt. We should remember that everyone's journey with mental health is unique. Therapy isn't about manipulation; it's about understanding ourselves better and learning healthier ways to cope with life's challenges.


These reflections remind me of the many people I've seen grow through therapy, not because they dealt with their problems alone, but because they sought and embraced support. Ranbir's comments highlight the need for ongoing conversations about mental health, emphasizing that we must continue to challenge stigmas and promote open, honest dialogue. Together, we can create a society where mental health is respected and prioritized.



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